Learning to be content and single is something that many of us may struggle with. Learning to function on your own because at one point you had someone who was always there to help you. Some may take this season in their lives harder than others. Being single can possibly lead to depression and the spirit of loneliness which makes you vulnerable and insecure possibly being able to give into temptation. For many this can lead you down a dark path and you may end up in places that you may have never visioned yourself to be. Letting someone rule over your body because you don’t want to be alone,so you let them have their way. Feeling vulnerable and weak and letting others come in and out of your life as they please because you depend so much on their opinions. We rely on man so much for things that he can’t even control. We begin to have a huge void placed in our life that at our weakest moments instead of running to God we end up running to someone who only wants to take advantage of you. The only way to avoid going down this road is learning to be content. And saying that sounds so much easier. I often wonder where do you find this contentment at, how do I get there, what steps do I need to take. A lot of times we go about it the wrong way thinking that maybe being single and content means being content with going out alone, treating yourself to a dinner and a movie. Not being insecure because every one is in a relationship and that is only half of it. So many of us miss out on the joys that God has for us because we never truly learn to be content with what season God has placed us in, at this given moment We are so ready to rush ahead and get out of the current season that when we are finally out we realize that we missed out on a huge part of our life. And though we may finally be where we have always wanted to be we realize that we are still not content.
You can’t be content without having a relationship with Christ you must have a foundation first. Something that you can always fall on something to build on that will make you stronger and less vulnerable.Because of this you will soon yearn for more of him and because of that thirst and hunger you wont allow anyone to come in between you and his relationship. You will become fully dependent on him. Christ will fill that void that spirit of loneliness will soon be no more.
So what does it mean to be intimate. To be intimate is a relationship where you know each others darkest secrets your comfortable with admitting when you are right or wrong. You are not afraid to cry and talk and letting him see you in your most vulnerable moments because you know that he wont hurt you. Sometimes the biggest thing that holds us back is being afraid to humble ourselves let go of our pride and just be real with God. James 4:7 says to submit yourselves then to God resist the devil and he will flee from you. When reading the bible you have to dig deeper then what you already know. The word submit is much deeper then we think. Submit doesn’t just mean read your bible go to church and try to live right. Submit also means to let your guard down and to yield entirely not holding anything back and just being truthful with God. I think as Christians our goal should be to keep God first and make him a part of our daily life. Everyday we should wake up and begin to talk to God.
Here are some ways to strengthen your relationship.
1. Journaling- sometimes we aren’t able to verbally admit to God how we feel just because we may feel ashamed and unworthy. This also helps you in tracking down your progress and how far you have grown.
2.READ- I can’t stress how important this is. There is so much knowledge out there for us to obtain. And for those who seek additional bible study tips reading books helps a lot.
3. Study- its one thing to just read God’s word buts it another when you meditate and actually study. 2 timothy 2:15 study to show thyself approved unto God a workmen needeth not to be ashamed rightly dividing the word of truth.
4. PRAY- prayer is important and to pray simply means that you are conversing with God there Is no right or wrong way to pray. Matthew 6:6 describes this perfectly
5. And most of all obey what God is telling you don’t just read and pray without being obedient John 14:15 If you love me, keep my commandments
And if you’re not single being content doesn’t just fit into this category. There are many areas of our life where we are not content. You may have asked God for something and once you have received it you still aren’t quite content.
I pray that I have touched someone with this message.