Single and Content (Intimacy)

18 Sunday Nov 2012

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Learning to be content and single is something that many of us may struggle with. Learning to function on your own because at one point you had someone who was always there to help you. Some may take this season in their lives harder than others. Being single can possibly lead to depression and the spirit of loneliness which makes you vulnerable and insecure possibly being able to give into temptation. For many this can lead you down a dark path and you may end up in places that you may have never visioned yourself to be. Letting someone rule over your body because you don’t want to be alone,so you let them have their way. Feeling vulnerable and weak and letting others come in and out of your life as they please because you depend so much on their opinions. We rely on man so much for things that he can’t even control. We begin to have a huge void placed in our life that at our weakest moments instead of running to God we end up running to someone who only wants to take advantage of you. The only way to avoid going down this road is learning to be content. And saying that sounds so much easier. I often wonder where do you find this contentment at, how do I get there, what steps do I need to take. A lot of times we go about it the wrong way thinking that maybe being single and content means being content with going out alone, treating yourself to a dinner and a movie. Not being insecure because every one is in a relationship and that is only half of it. So many of us miss out on the joys that God has for us because we never truly learn to be content with what season God has placed us in, at this given moment We are so ready to rush ahead and get out of the current season that when we are finally out we realize that we missed out on a huge part of our life. And though we may finally be where we have always wanted to be we realize that we are still not content.

You can’t be content without having a relationship with Christ you must have a foundation first. Something that you can always fall on something to build on that will make you stronger and less vulnerable.Because of this you will soon yearn for more of him and because of that thirst and hunger you wont allow anyone to come in between you and his relationship. You will become fully dependent on him. Christ will fill that void that spirit of loneliness will soon be no more.

So what does it mean to be intimate. To be intimate is a relationship where you know each others darkest secrets your comfortable with admitting when you are right or wrong. You are not afraid to cry and talk and letting him see you in your most vulnerable moments because you know that he wont hurt you. Sometimes the biggest thing that holds us back is being afraid to humble ourselves let go of our pride and just be real with God. James 4:7 says to submit yourselves then to God resist the devil and he will flee from you. When reading the bible you have to dig deeper then what you already know. The word submit is much deeper then we think. Submit doesn’t just mean read your bible go to church and try to live right. Submit also means to let your guard down and to yield entirely not holding anything back and just being truthful with God. I think as Christians our goal should be to keep God first and make him a part of our daily life. Everyday we should wake up and begin to talk to God.

Here are some ways to strengthen your relationship.

1. Journaling- sometimes we aren’t able to verbally admit to God how we feel just because we may feel ashamed and unworthy. This also helps you in tracking down your progress and how far you have grown.
2.READ- I can’t stress how important this is. There is so much knowledge out there for us to obtain. And for those who seek additional bible study tips reading books helps a lot.
3. Study- its one thing to just read God’s word buts it another when you meditate and actually study. 2 timothy 2:15 study to show thyself approved unto God a workmen needeth not to be ashamed rightly dividing the word of truth.
4. PRAY- prayer is important and to pray simply means that you are conversing with God there Is no right or wrong way to pray. Matthew 6:6 describes this perfectly
5. And most of all obey what God is telling you don’t just read and pray without being obedient John 14:15 If you love me, keep my commandments

And if you’re not single being content doesn’t just fit into this category. There are many areas of our life where we are not content. You may have asked God for something and once you have received it you still aren’t quite content.

I pray that I have touched someone with this message.

God Bless

xoxo, Autum

Update!!

01 Thursday Nov 2012

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So haven’t been on here to blog in awhile not even to check and view my comments and likes. Shame on me but I have really been wanting to blog for awhile but I’ve been so busy with school and my intern. I have to really try to organize my time. I seriously suck at that. Anywho I haven’t forgot about you all. Working on a new post this weekend. So hopefully I can get that up soon.My laptop is slowly giving up on me the keys are starting to get stuck and I’m just kind of over this. OK I’m starting to ramble but just checking in.

xoxo, Autum

33 Ways To Stay Creative

16 Tuesday Oct 2012

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As a designer and author I am always trying to tap into my inner creativity. There comes those times when you just have no creativity. Your Creative juices aren’t flowing like they usually are. I find that when I compare myself to others this sucks the life out of my designs and my writing. I found this list that will help you to stay creative and motivated to excel in whatever it is that you do. What are some ways that helps you stay creative? Please share

Here is a scripture that I found, I wish I would have come across this sooner. But better late than never right ? Enjoy

Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life. Galatians 6:4-5 MSG

XOXO, Autum

The Essence of Writing

15 Monday Oct 2012

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When ever i am asked how do you deal with a certain situation I always say Writing. Writing is something that I have been doing since I was a little girl. Every time my mom would go to the dollar store I would always ask her to buy me a new journal. You know the ones with the little key and the lock in it, that really doesn’t work because you could easily unlock the journal by just holding the lock down. Yes I had all of them Barbie, snow-white, you name it I had it. Then I remember in 6th grade my teacher would make us write stories everyday and from then on I just fell in love with writing I could express how I felt or I could make up a story something that I would love to experience, one day I would tell it through my writing. In middle school my mentor gave me a diary and told me to write everything down in it. I remember I would get so excited to come home from school to write down what was happening. The sad part of this story is I cannot find that diary aghhh I would love to go back and see what I was thinking at the time. I always pray and hope that I will find it whenever I go home to visit my mom. But still no luck. I recently started back writing after a horrible break up this year. And I realized how I felt so much better when I was done. If I didn’t write anger and bitterness would build up. So the only way to not let that happen was to write. I have at least 4 journals that I write in each one has different topics.

I have my prayer journal ( will go into more in-depth of how to organize this soon) this journal is basically my prayers to God. I pray for family, friends my ministry everything in here. It’s amazing I want to document all of my prayers so that way when the things that I have prayed for begin to manifest I can go back and look and see how God has answered my prayers
The next journal is where I Keep my personal bible study notes. So after I read a chapter I write down my thoughts on a specific verse. This will also include my notes from church sermons.
This is the journal that I would highly recommend. It is my personal journal that I have been keeping since last year it includes thoughts, that I wrote when I was in a relationship, non relationship problems everything is in it. I hide that one because it’s very personal and deep.
My last journal is something that I started this year. The idea came to me during quiet time with God. Upon my quiet time I began to keep a journal that would be specifically for my husband. So a few days before our wedding I will give this journal to him. I do this because I want him to understand where my mind was before he had met me. I want him to see first hand how much I have grown and how long I have been waiting patiently for him. Keeping this journal gives me hope to wait for him on my journey through singleness. It makes me happy and I can’t wait until I give it to him.

Somethings to write about.

Write down your dreams. If it’s one thing that I have learned God always speaks to me through my dreams. I guess that this is the only time that he is able to speak to me as my mind isn’t running 100 miles per hr
Goals dreams. Things that you plan to do in the near future. Be accurate with those goals. And write dates next to them. The date that you wrote them down and the date that you completed that task.
Bucket list what do you want to do. We have one life to live ON THIS EARTH. So what do you wanna do what places do you want to see.
Prayers. The bible says to ASK and it shall be given to you seek and you will find. What is it that you need ask your father he will be glad to help.

Journal Secret

Don’t be afraid to get raw and uncut in your writing. Again this is for personal use. Hide it somewhere safe so that way no one can find it. Or you could even figure out your own writing code,that no one understands. If your are not a big fan on writing do journal art which is collecting a bunch of art work and pasting it in your notebook. Again don’t feel as if you need a fancy notebook to begin. A plain writing notebook will do just fine. Laptops are allowed as well. But I am old fashioned I prefer a pen and paper

One last thing before I let you guys go and journal There is this scripture that has stuck with me and motivates me to write down every single thing.

Write this. Write what you see. Write it out in big block letters so that it can be read on the run. This vision-message is a witness pointing to what’s coming. It aches for the coming- it can hardly wait! And it doesn’t Lie. If is seems slow in coming, wait. It’s on its way. It will come right on time Habakkuk 2:2 Msg

Happy Writing

xoxo, Autum

October Obsessions

06 Saturday Oct 2012

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Yayyy my favorite time of year is here Fall and no not because my name is Autum but because I genuinely enjoy the weather. Sweat pants, tube socks, hoodies, tea, and watching Christmas movies… So it wouldn’t be right if i didn’t share with you the things that just has my attention this fall. My current obsessions the things that makes me all warm and bubbly inside. Although ever year my obsessions are the same I will still share them with you.

I’m not sure if I mentioned in one of previous post that I am a fashion design major. Yes it’s a lot of work and very stressful but I will make it. So this quarter I am taking knitwear the past few quarters were mainly sewing classes but I decided to take a break and work on my own designs so I am taking knitwear instead. I’m not perfect yet but so far I know what i’m doing and besides practice makes perfect right.

Besides the challenge I find this to be a very relaxing activity not only that it’s so fall appropriate and of course if you are not able to take classes to learn how to knit I would recommend watching lots of youtube videos and purchase the book “Vogue Knitting”

When it comes to nail polishes I’m more of a dark purple, dark brown type of girl. I have tried the bright pinks and yellows but they just don’t fit my personality. No my personality isn’t dark I promise but I’m really into masculine colors. I picked this nail polish up awhile ago from Walgreen. Every few months they have a sale on their nail polishes and this was only 99 cent so of course what any woman would say is “it was on sale so I had to buy it” Works every time I must say. Oh yea and it is called “under your spell”.

So I’m not sure how you all feel about forever 21′s cheap makeup finds but so far I like. I will elaborate more on another post about the consistency of the nail polish as I still haven’t worn those a lot. But as far as the make up I LOVE IT. Not only because it’s dirt cheap but I find that the blush and lipstick is a must have.

OK last but not least I didn’t mention that I turned 21 last Wednesday. It was a great b day I enjoyed myself although I don’t feel 21 It’s satisfying to know that I made it 21 yrs grateful I am I didn’t get a lot of gifts but I did get a lot of money which is a win win situation. But my favorite gift was my gift from my mommy I promise that women has swag for days for her to have picked this out for me. My mom got me the brown watch and my baby sis (who is five) bought me the bottom watch *hint my mom really picked it out but my sis swears she picked it out for me*

Ps. most of these pics were edited using my instagram follow me @autumcymone

Here is a pic from last week my bday weekend do I look 21…. No OK i’ll take that lol

xoxo, Autum Muah

Relationship Series “Cleaning House”

03 Wednesday Oct 2012

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Releasing and dealing with anger at the beginning is always better than building it up situation after situation until you just burst. Which is the very reason why I recommended the week to cry and sulk and release the anger. Hopefully by this week you feel a lot lighter and happier. It’s ok if you still feel the same as you did the first week these emotions will continue to come back up until you are fully healed. This week is all about cleaning house. And when I say clean house I mean getting rid of old clothes, unhealthy food, and renewing your mind. But lets first start with the rearranging your place. If you don’t have a huge place or the funds to go out and purchase new things. Just start by rearranging furniture, doing laundry, opening the windows and letting some fresh air in. Once you have cleaned and organized you can sit back relax and really focus on you. A clean environment is always produces positive energy. Once you feel as if your space is organized and the way you want it lets start renewing your mind. Before renewing your mind you have to be willing to heal and become a better person. During a breakup you may feel like a part of you is missing. You may feel like life is pointless. But understand that sometimes we have to go through things that will build your muscles mentally. Just like you have to work out to gain strength you have to go through trials that will give you strength mentally. These trials are to make you a better person. In order to recognize what it is that you need to work on sit down and take out a piece of paper and write down a list of things that you can make improvements on things that you struggle with it could be procrastination, or it could be keeping your word whatever it is write it down. Keep this list in a place where you can see it every day to remind yourself to become a better person.

You now have a clean place and idea of what you need to work on now lets start by focusing on your health. I say when a relationship ends working out is the best way to release stress. For me it was running on the treadmill every morning and thinking about what my ex did how it hurt. This gave me so much energy and then I was able to go above and beyond what I usually do. If running isn’t for you take a boxing class, maybe yoga, find something that helps you release your anger.

Later this week I will make a post dedicated to health showing you what I do to keep healthy. But until then continue meditating, journaling and reading, whatever it is that makes you happy and helps you to keep moving. Try to stay busy but don’t over work yourself.

Meditation psalm147:3

Xoxo Autum

Week One Relationship Series “How to Get Over A Breakup”

24 Monday Sep 2012

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Week One

The first week of a break up can be the most hardest week ever for some. You may feel lost and confused, angry, mad, sad, and strangely you may even feel as if you are willing to give it a second chance. Which is OK. Some people are able to work it out while others are not. But during the first week of the break up it is important to restrict from any contact, unless you have to. Now I will say this before I continue even if you are sure that you and your ex may get back in the future, you should still refrain from contact for a few days. If you guys work together, or have children that’s understandable. The first week or first few days should be the beginning of the healing process. The first week is to release all of your anger and recollect your thoughts. So the first thing to do is get all of your crying, anger and bitterness out of you. LET IT GO!!! Don’t get violent. To prevent violence I would recommend tearing something like a piece of blank paper. During this time listen to all of the sad music, watch all of the sad movies and eat all of the ice cream that you want to. Don’t call your friends and break your ex down and bash him remember at one point you use to love him and I’m sure at this point you still do. To prevent calling your friends and venting I first recommend to light a candle, turn off the lights and cry out to God let him know that your hurt and you need him. Tell him why your hurt and why your angry. It is ok to talk to friends but I know at this point you may not want to hear others opinions because they could confuse you and misguide you. And talking to God is the best thing to do because he knows what’s best for you. During this week you may have several outburst of crying out of nowhere which is normal don’t hold it in. If you are at work or school and you have to cry go to the rest room and let it out but what ever you do don’t hold it in. So during this whole week Practice meditation set aside a time to just be alone you and God turn your phone off so that way you wont be distracted. This is the only week and time that I will advice you to be . Next week we will begin to focus on you bettering yourself and just becoming a better person in general.

Meditation: Psalm 119

xoxo, Autum

“How To Get Over A Breakup Series” Introduction

21 Friday Sep 2012

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A breakup is something that just about everyone will have to go through one day. You may have not had a breakup before so you may not understand how painful It can be. I remember my best friend would say Autum you haven’t experienced a break up before so that’s why it’s so easy for you to say to just get over it and move on. And I didn’t listen I just thought that she was just being over dramatic. Until I had my very first serious break up. And yes my friend was right. I remember feeling as if this dark shadow was around me. Even though the sun would be out I would still feel as if the world around me was dark and cold. I was depressed for a while. And because of my experience with this situation, I am taking the time to write this blog. Because I don’t want a moment to pass knowing that I could help someone who is in a similar situation that I was in. So over the next few weeks I will be posting steps and exercises that will help you through the healing process whether you are a boy or girl, man or woman. This is just an introduction of what to expect. So Starting Monday be looking for a new post relating to this series.
Xoxo, Autum